Wanna know one of the biggest misconceptions in life?
That we need to strive to be happy, always.
This way of thinking is damaging to most of us. It basically teaches us that whenever we're not happy, we're doing something wrong.
In fact, the desire for non-stop happiness is a one way road to depression and misery.
Because nobody's happy all the time. And believing the opposite of that statement, can make the sad and lonely days even worse than they have to be.
Here's my advice to you: Don't chase happiness!
Wanna know something better to strive for in life?
Gratitude doesn't apply the same kind of pressure on us as happiness does, because unlike happiness, it can be applied regardless of how you're feeling.
You can be stressing over a deadline for work - and be grateful to have a job at the same time.
You can be sad that a friend is moving far away - and be grateful to have social media to stay in touch.
You can be angry with your husband - and be grateful that you don't have to spend the night alone... cause your husband is only in the next room sleeping on the sofa.
Do you see where I'm going with this?
Being grateful is also a choice. The same statement, on the other hand, can't be applied to happiness.
Happiness is an uncontrollable feeling. It's largely influenced by the people around us and the situations we're in - both of which we have little to no control over.
For gratitude to work you don't have to have tons of disposable money in the bank. You don't have to own a wardrobe full of red soles and mink furs. And you don't even need loads of IG followers.
Gratitude is so simple, you can go complete #BasicBitch with it and just be grateful for things like, 'I woke up today' or 'I found matching underwear in my drawers'.
Whenever you feel sad, angry or stressed, don't make it worse for yourself by thinking you're doing something wrong in life because you're not happy. It's like kicking a three legged kitten in a potato sack - it's just not fair, darn it!
I promise you, life gets a little bit easier when we stop chasing happiness and instead practice gratitude despite how we feel.
Can you list three things you're grateful for right now?